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Rant: Don't Take Good Parenting For Granted

Journal Entry: Tue Jun 24, 2014, 12:40 PM
Hi guys. Things are looking up a tiny bit, so I figured I'd take advantage of it and use the time to be online. Hopefully things will continue to get better from here on out and not take the downward route again. I know it will eventually, but...I'm thinking positively. Trying to. :thumbsup:

Anyway, I just wanted to write this to let some of my younger watchers and friends know that...if you have decent parents who love you, who respect you, and who support you, please don't let some stupid reason keep you from having a good relationship with them. Don't let shit like this...:

They took my phone away!

They won't let me talk to my gf/bf!

They don't like the way I dress and do my hair!

They don't let me get away with all the stupid shit that could get me in trouble!

...ruin the relationship you have or could have with them. You COULD have parents who don't give a shit. You COULD have parents who don't love you. You COULD have parents that don't support you in anything. But if you have a mom and dad who give you all that they can and try their best to make life good for you, please don't be a little asshole and kill that by ever hating them for a reason as dumb as the ones above. It's something you really don't want to take for granted. If you have a stable home life and parents that are decent and good, you have a rarity that many kids don't get this day and age with all the bullshit out there in the world.

It pisses me off when kids nowadays say how much they hate their parents just because they don't dish out shitty material possessions and money to them every time they ask for it. There are sooo many more things that matter than that new phone or iPad, you know. Consider your parents' needs as much as they consider yours, because if something happens to them, all you're going to have is that damn phone or iPad and it's not going to matter because the last thing you said to your mom or dad was 'I hate you.'

Of course, not all parents are good, and if your mom and dad abuse you in any way, whether it be physically, emotionally, mentally, or verbally, you have a right to feel the way you feel towards them. I really feel for all the people out there who don't know what it feels like to have good parents. Some kids have to deal with their parents coming home drunk and beating the shit out of them. Some kids have to go without necessities because their parents spend all their money on drugs. Some kids have to feel worthless every day because their parents don't care about them enough to say "Hey. You're a good kid. I love you." So the next time you're sitting on your bed, angry and sulking because you didn't get that material thing or your dad didn't like your rainbow hair and piercings, think about that. (I'm not saying any particular one of you is like this, I'm just speaking to the general public here.)

Yes, I get very, very angry at my mother and father. Every day. But I guarantee you it's not because they wouldn't let me buy that super cute shirt. I can buy my own shit, thank you. It's time some kids learned to do that, as well, instead of expecting mommy and daddy to pay for everything.

Also, think about the shit you do and why your parents may not want you to do it before you bitch at them for it:

Maybe your dad doesn't want you to get into drugs because you'll ruin your life and become an addict.

You're 14. Maybe your mom doesn't want you wearing that outfit and plastering ten pounds of makeup on your face because she doesn't want you to look like a child whore.

Maybe your parents want you to make something of your life, and that's why they ride your ass about your grades. Education is important, whether you want to believe it or not.

Maybe your parents don't want you hanging out with that older boy because he'll end up hurting you and getting you acquainted with the wrong crowds.

Think. That pinkish grey swirly thing in your skull? Use it.
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I know I sound like the old woman on the corner who shakes her cane at you and tells long, boring stories and lectures, but I'm just standing up for all the good parents out there.

Hating Parents by Its-An-Inferno

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AI-Dirkbot Featured By Owner Jun 29, 2014  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
They won't let me talk to my gf/bf!
Does this count if they won't let me because they are homophobes?
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AzulMelodyStorm Featured By Owner Jan 22, 2015  Hobbyist Digital Artist
good point
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KittyArtPony Featured By Owner Jun 26, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
Heh, my parents don't really like the way I dress, are always on me about my endless bush of a hair and my grades, I have a flip phone (Which I just got a few weeks ago) an ipod, a laptop ,art supplies my mom and friends give me, my stuffies and figures, a collection, and my clothes. That's pretty much all I have. And I love my parents. They would cut off an arm for me if they had to, even though I have a motor mouth and am really forgetful ^u^ It's not like they abuse me or anything. I love how kids at my school are like 'OMG I H8 MY PARENTS! THEY JUST GROUNDED ME!!' yet.. They're posting it on FACEBOOK via their IPHONE FIVE. e-e Yet I don't get on facebook, too much drama llamas
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Dysfunctional-H0rr0r Featured By Owner Jun 26, 2014  Student General Artist
Thank you!
I'm glad i'm not the only one who sees this.

I also love it when elder people tell me stories, pretty fun unless they tell it more then once but i still listen ^^
At least i can say though my parents taught me a few good things like 'respect my elders' and 'you don't need money to be happy'.
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ShadowIsStillAlive Featured By Owner Jun 25, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
Much love to this. My parents are awesome! They may restrict my access to my friends and boyfriend sometimes, but I know they do it because there's something else they need me to do :) YAY FOR GOOD PARENTING!
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gattsby Featured By Owner Jun 25, 2014  Student Traditional Artist
I totally agree with you in this.

My dad is emotionally/ verbally abusive to my mother because he feels that it is the husband's right to do so. Luckily, he often forgets that I'm around. So it doesn't happen to me very often.

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Cobalt-Punk Featured By Owner Jun 24, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Just passing through spamming Llamas and I spotted this, and I agree. I can't STAND those who hate their parents for stupid reasons!! When I was younger I got really angry at my folks for not letting me do this or have that, but I understood why they acted that way and what they were trying to do. I wish I did listen to them about the crowds I hung with. They made me do dumb things and I was extremely lucky I chose to pull my shit together my senior year of high school last minute to graduate with a 2.1 GPA. My folks were proud I got to walk across that stage, but I could see it in them that I should have done better. And I honestly wish I did. I know I disappointed them.

These dumbass kids/teens need to appreciate their parents more, because they really could have it really awful. Because I'm regretting how I used to act, and that was only a handful of years ago.

U___U This journal reminds me of my relationship with my own parents at the moment. But I may save that story for another time.
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CrunchTheAmazing Featured By Owner Jun 24, 2014  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
Ironic you posted this today :/
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AVA-1966 Featured By Owner Jun 24, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
Y'alright?
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CrunchTheAmazing Featured By Owner Jun 24, 2014  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
I am not. If you wanna know more then I'd prefer to talk about it in private messages.
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AVA-1966 Featured By Owner Jun 25, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
I'll note ya.
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Cammi0 Featured By Owner Jun 24, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Ugh thank you. I'd kill for a parent that only took my phone away, and didn't emotionally abuse me everyday, neglect me, and leave me to fend for myself. I'd love to have parents that even had the money to provide me a phone, but no, I work for everything I own.

I seriously hate spoiled brats with a burning passion. I'd kill for their fucking life.
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otiaKaito Featured By Owner Edited Jun 25, 2014  Student Traditional Artist
Daer dairy,

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P.S. bbff- bes boyfrend 4eevs duh!!!
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AVA-1966 Featured By Owner Jun 24, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
Oh god you kill me xD
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otiaKaito Featured By Owner Edited Jun 25, 2014  Student Traditional Artist
It takes time to learn a new language.. I call this as "21st century stereotypical 15-year old white girl"... No offense to the remaining decent 15-year olds there...

ANYways...
P.P.S. Nao ahmma xpres mah rant tru rapin' 'cuz dat's wut d thug layf duz... L8r awsum hoes!!!
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MAZRpanic Featured By Owner Jun 24, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Yes. This. All of it.

"Some kids have to feel worthless every day because their parents don't care about them enough to say "Hey. You're a good kid. I love you."" This was/is my issue I tend to have with my parents. What's ironic is that I get blamed for "not caring." *eye twitch*

But yes, don't whine over stuff like "
They took my phone away!" "They don't like the way I dress and do my hair!"  cause it's BECAUSE they DO care. They are trying to watch over you, trying to morph you into (eventually) a decent human being. And not one of the ever so wonderful (sarcasm) fuck-tards I always talk (bitch) about. 
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Dannyman12 Featured By Owner Jun 24, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
The worst kind of parents are those who:
-Believe they're bad
-Tell their kids they were accidents
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TGOM Featured By Owner Jun 24, 2014
My parents fucked up everything they were supposed to do as parents.
1) They drink a lot, father abused all family (even the cat! the poor thing has done nothing to this bastard I'm supposed to call father)
2) Mom spent all money on expensive clothes when we were poor (she thinks she's still young and can have everything she wants and will pay debts when she'll be old. She won't pay shit. I won't either and I hope nobody can make me)
3) When I was abused at school they just said: "Stand up for yourself!". Yeaaah, like I can beat ten boys...
4) They never gave a damn about what I was doing. They still don't know I was stealing everything I saw. I once stole an umbrella right under owner's nose without having any bags and I was only 10 or younger, can you believe it?! I was always coming home from a store having my clothes (not only pockets) full of chocolates. That leads to number five...
...5) I never had any money until I was, like, 15. Yeah, perfect choice of age. Right when kids start doing all those bad things like smoking, using drugs, drinking and all that shit.
6) When I started having mental problems they didn't give a damn. I'm just a crying, moaning, cutting little bitch. She doesn't have problems, she's a teenage girl! "She's" 20 and "she's" still a teenage girl. Not because of crying, but because of developmental delay. Thanks, parents. They still think I'm lying about hearing voices, even after I was diagnosed.
7) I didn't have a boyfriend until I was 18. Yeah, that's great I didn't whore myself like all my classmates. But isn't this kinda... strange? Anyway, no fucks has been given about that.

Well, that shit is over and there's no reason to brag about it all over again. I have a great grandma. When my parents worked their asses off on a low-paid work just to survive (sure, it's a perfect time to have a kid! Without education, within a terrible crisis in our country, living in the same house as their parents do. Of course it's a great idea to have a baby, isn't it?) she always was with me. She bought me candy and toys. She was always nice and smiling unlike my dad, who was beating me for not wanting (=being unable to) to dress by myself when I was 3. She still does everything in this house.
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Baconkitty Featured By Owner Jun 24, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
I've tried not to hate my parents (mostly my dad) because I know other people have it worse but its so hard when he yells at me and threatens me and then yells at me again for not respecting him. He told me i'm going to go to jail because i don't respect anyone and that it's no wonder why i don't have friends. I also get the best grades out of all his kids but that doesn't matter because my little brother is his favorite even though he gets legit crap grades. Idek what to do anymore so I spend all my time upstairs away from my family and when I come down they make fun of me for not going downstairs more idek.
It makes me really mad though when like 4th graders are like "omg i h8 my parents they wont leme get a bf/gf nd a iphone liek mg yy mi life sux." like they really need to shut up and realize that they have a family that loves them and thats all they need.
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MAZRpanic Featured By Owner Jun 24, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
This is an issue I had in late middle school - high school. I still find myself going to my room. It's like a retreat. A safe haven. Words of warning: From my experience, retreating to your room - over time it makes you feel worse. A better idea is to go out in a public place - like a park, or bookstore, or something. Take a walk. Those are all better "retreat" ideas that do good versus more bad.
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Baconkitty Featured By Owner Jun 24, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Yeah..that's a good idea.
My parents just told me that they want me to get a job at a grocery store (I told my dad that they'll probably treat me like crap and he said he doesn't care and I should get used to it, and then called my brother a craphead,) or do exactly 8 hours of work around the house, or take college courses online or something like that. I'm only 14 and they want me to do all of this stuff? Really? My dad asked me "why do you spend all your time up in your room it makes me feel like a failed parent" and i almost laughed because he is a very bad parent.
Even as I was typing this he banged on my door and barged into my room and yelled at me to do something.
I know I probably sound really annoying and whiny but they're telling me I'm not good enough for them even though I try my damn hardest in school and they don't give a crap, and they told my brother and I that we don't get a summer vacation and we don't get to relax because when they were kids they had a horrible childhood and they didn't get to relax, so we shouldn't either.
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MAZRpanic Featured By Owner Jun 26, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
My advice to you would actually be what he said. Even though you are 14 and are pretty much restricted to working at a grocery store - and you have to have a work permit since you're underage - I think that's an excellent idea. Don't do it because he's pressuring you, though. I think one of the things that has helped me a lot (especially with my depression) was finding a job. Even with the crap from customers I have to deal with every day - the times when I have really pleasant customers that I am able to connect with and give help to makes me feel great. It, too, would also kind of serve as a place to retreat to at times. You will also have money to put aside to save for things you want (or need) as well, and it could even improve your relationship with your parents. 

I am obviously not a mental health professional, but I am just giving you advice based on my own experiences, and I hope it helps. 

If you ever need to talk, feel free to send me a note. :)
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Baconkitty Featured By Owner Jun 26, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
alright, i guess you're right.

Thanks!:)
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GinKyofu13 Featured By Owner Jun 24, 2014  Student Digital Artist
Well, say, this shows a moral value that your parents does care except they don't want to get hurt or do anything wrong. Sometimes, my mom is cool, but sometimes we have a disagreement except we loved each other... Good parents have to be good parents, but they cannot call bad parents since they are doing it. We don't know who is the good parents nowadays... 

You weren't sounding like an old woman in the corner, but you were giving something that gives a moral value about good parents and the stamp... It shows a good point! Thank you!
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Eh, my mom's a bitch sometimes, but I still love her, but my step dad I wanna beat some sense into. All he fucking does is complain.

"The dishes aren't clean, I gotta take 5 minutes out of my life to rinse them off and put them in the dishwasher. This isn't my job! >:U"

"No one ever vacuums, so I'll have to! >:U"

"The bathroom never gets cleaned, I have to do it every time!"

Well good sir, if you have the energy to bitch about it, then you have the energy to do it, don'tcha think?

He over exaggerates too. Like, our vacuum is fucking terrible, and not even 20 minutes after I got done spending like an hour vacuuming, he came in and bitched that no one vacuumed.

The biggest thing that makes me mad about him  vvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvv

"You stretch MY money too far, the bills don't get paid properly!" *a few hours later* "Get me a big bottle of zip, you got money right?" (Zip being Jack Daniels vodka or whatever)

So, not only does my mom have to put the only money she makes into paying the bills, but, she has to put whatever she can scrounge up into his fucking booze as well?

I can't even.....
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V-e-x-e-n Featured By Owner Jun 24, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
This is an important journal that should get a daily deviation or some shit so that everybody can fucking see it.

Ungrateful children are something that I hate more than most things on this earth.

So many bratty kids come to the internet and make their parents seem way worse than they are.
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AVA-1966 Featured By Owner Jun 24, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
I really appreciate that!!

I agree with you...
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indi-dere Featured By Owner Jun 24, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
Man, I love my mom. She's fucking awesome. She understands us. "Hey mom, I want a gothic lolita dress for my birthday" BAM. I got one. "hey mom, I'm pansexual." "hey mom, I'm wiccan." When my brother wears dresses or women's fitted t-shirts? "I like that one on you." when my little sister wants everything Dr.who? offers her ways to make money around the house to buy the stuff. Of course, she takes nobody's shit. my little brother and I learned quick, but my lil sis has a bit of a hard time understanding. My mom is one of the most loving and tolerant people I know, she does her best to understand us. When my little brother used to cut, she didn't yell at him, she HELPED him. I love my mother so much.
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artbytiffany Featured By Owner Jun 24, 2014  Hobbyist
I see that a lot, when good parents do what good parents should then they get called bad parents it's sad :(
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Dark--Frost Featured By Owner Edited Jun 24, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
This actually made me shed a tear a little, I truly don't understand how kids can get so unhappy over the littlest things. It baffles me. It could be because I know what it's like not to grow up with a great parents. I grew up without a father due to him coming home drunk and he did drugs all the time. So my mother get a divorce. I thought everything would be okay.. my mom had a boyfriend that emotionally, verbally, and physically abused me and my siblings. Thank God she got rid of him. Which may seem harsh, but I'm happy about it. Also, my mother doesn't respect me. Just a couple days ago my mom and I got into a fight about how "useless" I am and how I "piss her off" all the time. When really I do nothing.
Thank you for making this, all the people that have good parents, but whine about should read this. These are true true words. Salute to you.~
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CatelynnSama Featured By Owner Jun 24, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
i agree completely, i may be 14, but im not like most of the kids in my grade who are disrespecting their parents 24/7. I have a really good relationship with both of them, but of course it is natural to fight with them once in awhile *coughcoughmeandmyhotheadedfathercoughcough* but i was raised "the old fashioned way" with spankings and such. Not just taking away the computer or my phone for a bit.

And i think thats whats wrong with my generation now. They're too spoiled... ANd it sickens me. I dont have a lot of fancy stuff, and frankly, i dont mind. It's nice having simple things with some privileges. And yeah, youre right, the people youre talking about could be like my baby cousins.

Their mom didnt want them, she ended up usuing all of her money (what little she had) for anything she wanted. and guess what? CPS found out and now we're raised 2/3 of her kids. And theyre better off here than with her.
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shayu-kai Featured By Owner Jun 24, 2014   Digital Artist
~6 year old voice
BUT MY MUMMY TOOK AWAY MY PHONE! ~sadface
MY LIFE IS TOTALLY RUINED BECAUSE IM NOT ALLOWED TO USE ONE THING.
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AVA-1966 Featured By Owner Jun 24, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
You go to your corner! Haha.
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shayu-kai Featured By Owner Jun 24, 2014   Digital Artist
This does actually happen normally. If I go outside, there's some child, like maybe 5, screaming about how their mother won't let them use their iPhone. Which brings me to another subject, why the fuck do 5 year olds have iPhones?
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MAZRpanic Featured By Owner Jun 24, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
I totally agree. My 12 year old and 10 year old sister all have iphones (that call and text), my little (almost) 7 year old sister has an iphone (that doesn't have actual service, but she uses kik with us). 

I'm like... I didn't get a damn phone until I was 16, almost 17! The heck?! :seriously: 
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AVA-1966 Featured By Owner Jun 24, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
Yeah, totally agree there. If I ever have kids, which, with a good percentage of the younger generations falling into the deep, black hole of ignorance, I doubt I will...but if by any chance I do, they won't even be getting phones until I know I can trust them. Age will vary by level of maturity.
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shayu-kai Featured By Owner Jun 25, 2014   Digital Artist
What good parents they are, letting a damn 5 year old use a iPhone. I mean it's not like their going to drop it on the ground or in water or let someone step on it. It's perfectly safe in a 5 year old's hands.
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Amy-Blood-Leaf Featured By Owner Jun 24, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
atleast they have parents that are still alive, unlike me
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Co-Swagster Featured By Owner Jun 24, 2014  Student Digital Artist
Such truth. :)

But what if you're yelled at for doing insignificant things that would count as "First World Problems" almost every day?
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AVA-1966 Featured By Owner Jun 24, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
Thank you!

Well...I...I have my own ideas of what First World Problems are, so I'd need an example to correctly form an opinion on that. If you're going through something bad in your life that's a serious issue and they just tell you to suck it up--like a mental disorder--yeah, that can be rough. But a mental disorder wouldn't be an insignificant thing, of course. I really don't know where I'm going with this to be honest.
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Co-Swagster Featured By Owner Jun 24, 2014  Student Digital Artist
Like leaving a plate of food on top of a scanner when it's not leaving any crumbs on the actual scanner, just the plate. :iconwtfisthisplz:

Or not doing chores "fast enough". :iconwthplz:

Or "doing the right thing", which means not being on DA or the computer at all... How else am I supposed to submit my sketches??? :iconfacepalmplz:
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ZoraSteam Featured By Owner Jun 24, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
jesus flippin christ i love this so much
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AVA-1966 Featured By Owner Jun 24, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
Oh thank you for loving this. >w>
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ZoraSteam Featured By Owner Jun 24, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
youre most definitley welcome!
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RandomYori Featured By Owner Jun 24, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
They punish you for being bad because they care. Bad parents let you go to jail for all they care.
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AVA-1966 Featured By Owner Jun 24, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
:nod:
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