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Rant: Nobody Cares if You've 'Done It' or Not

Journal Entry: Wed Jul 23, 2014, 12:43 PM
The opinions in this rant are my own, and if you don't agree, that's fine. You're not obligated to. If you do agree with me, thank you!
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You know what pisses me off? When people act like if you're a virgin, it's some kind of a sin and you need to have sex like RIGHT NAO or you're going to die alone and be miserable. Similarly, when some virgins act like being a virgin automatically makes them the most saintly thing in the world.

People always tell me "Kyra, you need to get laid! You need to do it with someone! Blah blah blah". Um, what if I'm perfectly happy in this life not screwing everything I set my sights on, huh? I'm happy the way I am and don't need someone telling me to go be a slut or else I'll be sad all the time. I don't have a desire to do that at this point in my life, and there's nothing wrong with that. I'm perfectly fine with my fantasies and interests, but I don't have a mighty need to go out in the world and make them a reality, you know?

And just because you may not be a virgin doesn't mean you're automatically some kind of a whore. There's a huge difference in being the town skank/manwhore and being an everyday person who's had sex. 

Oh well...this is a short rant, because this is not a topic I tend to talk about a lot. Conclusion? Virgin or not, you're no better than anyone else and it's not really that big of a deal... Also, if someone's secure and happy being whatever they happen to be, don't try to make them do something (or someone) they don't want to do. It's not that serious, bro.

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SundaeBlaze Featured By Owner Jul 30, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
Ugh when I was in high school, there were people just saying how they "did it" the night before, where, when and how. It was nauseating not only to me (being a virgin and still happily am, thank you very much) but there were several people just pregnant... .__.

Junior year at my tech school, there was somebody with a baby. Another girl in the same class was pregnant. About a few days (maybe a little over a week?) before summer break she had her son. Didn't get to see the final days of school, write in yearbooks or anything. Just had a baby and didn't show up.

What's really annoying, to me, is people writing "SO-AND-SO IS MY BABY DADDY <3333" and I'm just sitting there like, "Oh honey if he's not a real man he'll leave you within a year. If he was a true man he'd stick with you. But in my books he's a BOY. <<"

"And it's you're not a "MILF" (Mother I'd Like to ****), sweetie. you're a B*tch With A Baby (BWAB)" is another saying I like for snotty 16-and-pregnant people.

But I'm getting off topic.

Long story short, I'm happy being a virgin. I'd love to be a virgin until I find the right man. MAN. Not a boy. Until then, I'll live out my fantasies in private and wait until I find the right guy.

But I do not agree with the stereotypes of women. There's a fine line between being a skan*/whore/slut/whatever when you've only slept with somebody... once. Against somebody who's slept with almost all the guys in the neighborhood.

It's like this: Woman dates/sleeps with multiple guys in different years respectfully, she's considered a "slut" and she's hated upon. Guy sleeps with several women within a few weeks and he gets a high five from his guy friends.

Yes, I was once (or twice) called a "whore" even though I am a virgin. I just laughed at them, because those people were talking mostly about themselves anyways.

I could go on forever with this c:
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ExperimentaI Featured By Owner Edited Sep 2, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
....wait seriously
HIGH SCHOOLERS
ARE FREAKING PREGNANT
FaithInHumanity.exe has stopped working.
AVG has found a virus in this program and suggests you delete it.
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SundaeBlaze Featured By Owner Sep 3, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
The world turned to sh*t in 2003. God help us all..
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RaspberryTickle Featured By Owner Jul 29, 2014  Student General Artist
GAWD that's so annoying. Why should people care about another's sexual/personal life? My former coworkers at my old disgusting degrading job used to talk about their sex lives all the goddamn time....fad;gaj39ut4es geerrrr can't even finish my sentence.

~Ced
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Ozokami698 Featured By Owner Jul 24, 2014  Student Traditional Artist
Hmm, I agree, personally it annoys me when people say I need to get laid ASAP, and believe that if you haven't had sex by the time you're 16 it's a freakin' crime:/ It really annoys me since, I'd rather lose my virginity to someone that actually cares about me, and not some stupid one night stand....People piss me off at times, especially when they try to peer-pressure me into trying to get laid, when I'm content with not having sex yet.
Granted, I'm not a saint, not in the least. Just because I'm a virgin, doesn't make me a saint. I'm not a nice being in the least, even then I'm only nice to those who treat me nicely. If you are a royal ass, then I'm going to be a ass right back at ya. Once again, not a saint.

I actually find it funny....because the idiots that pressure me to have sex don't realize they can get in trouble. In the USA if you are not at the age of 18 and you have sex, you can be charged. (This rule varies sometimes, like you can have sex at the age of 17 in Texas, since Texas considers you as a adult) Regardless, most of these stupid teens having sex/getting pregnant at a really early age should look up the law:/ Plus, they have a giant portion of their life to have a baby and/or have sex....

Once again, it can wait. It's not going to be the end of the world if you wait.
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AngelicRose1 Featured By Owner Jul 24, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
Amen. I mean, have you even HEARD of that one 12-year old who got pregnant?! When I was 12, my parents told me to save myself until marriage otherwise I'd get a deadly disease and die...which is kinda true if you get AIDS, but I think they can treat that. Hmm...
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unicornhearts0000 Featured By Owner Jul 25, 2014  Hobbyist Filmographer
There was a 9 year-old who got pregnant, too. And I'm pretty sure that AIDS is untreatable, but I could be wrong.
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RaspberryTickle Featured By Owner Jul 29, 2014  Student General Artist
I didn't think it was possible for someone that young to get pregnant

~Ced
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unicornhearts0000 Featured By Owner Jul 29, 2014  Hobbyist Filmographer
Yeah she hit puberty extremely early on, so she could get pregnant
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RaspberryTickle Featured By Owner Jul 29, 2014  Student General Artist
Agh, gross. 

~Ced
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unicornhearts0000 Featured By Owner Jul 29, 2014  Hobbyist Filmographer
Yep
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AngelicRose1 Featured By Owner Jul 26, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
Holy crap, 9? Wait...was this in the USA? Otherwise it's meh.
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unicornhearts0000 Featured By Owner Jul 26, 2014  Hobbyist Filmographer
I'm not sure, actually
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Jena-Rose Featured By Owner Jul 24, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
I agree that's how kids end up pregnant.speaking of which a 13 year old in my school is pregnant because she was told she need to get laid.once again your rants are fun to read,could you maybe do one on under age drinking? I think that'd help (I'll note you)
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Jeff-Revan Featured By Owner Jul 24, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
How about a rant about people who harass people who've been raped? I wish i could do it on my page.... but my parents are monitering it....
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so-long-lonesome Featured By Owner Edited Jul 24, 2014  Student Traditional Artist
I needed to read that. I was around those types of people, so it sometimes made me ashamed that I hadn't gone at it like everyone else had. Kind of crazy, how backwards it was.
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WuckingFeirdo Featured By Owner Jul 24, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
Heya! Totally agree.
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Gossamier Featured By Owner Jul 23, 2014  Hobbyist Artisan Crafter
THANK YOU!!! I agree with ALL of this!
But if you're gonna do it, do it right. I just found out my like 17 maybe 18 year old friend is pregnant.
That's what concerns me.
And may I add, if it's not with the right person, it could potentially make someone more miserable and never have the guts to be with someone knowing they didn't wait for them.

That's just me though. 
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Miss-Vyris Featured By Owner Jul 23, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
I agree. Sex is something personal anyway, it's nobody else's concern.
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Otterwillow Featured By Owner Edited Jul 23, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
I don't see why as a society we have so much focus on hankey-pankey, aside from being fun if you do it right, having or not having sex has no medical or psychological effects- so why the fuss?

If someone has no sex or doesn't want it its fine,
If they have lots of sex, its fine,
Neither of these things effect a person.
(Im talking about safe sex here)
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SkunkyKitty662 Featured By Owner Jul 23, 2014  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
WORD 'EM UP!
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WasahbiArt Featured By Owner Jul 23, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
Well said friend....and im somewhat glad you dont have that creepy icon.....saves me the heart attack each time i look at your journals and want to comment....xD
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Hells-Princess-Cra Featured By Owner Jul 23, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
I was talking about this with my friend Viktor today.  We both agree with what you have stated.
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ExplosiveSquid Featured By Owner Jul 23, 2014
I think some people are upset with themselves for giving out their virginity so early to someone they didn't really care about. I know if I had done that, I would be very regretful. Then they try to take everyone else down with them, because if it "happens to everyone", then you start to regret it less.

Also, studies show that people who lose their virginity later on life lead more successful relationships.
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I have to admit, I hate sluts and would never date one. They're irresponsible and untrustworthy. Plus, it's hard to have a satisfying relationship when everyone and their mother has been on top of them. 
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lotus-orchidveins Featured By Owner Jul 23, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
this is what i try to tell people all the time ;__;
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otiaKaito Featured By Owner Jul 23, 2014  Student Traditional Artist
...as long as someone isn't trying to imitate Miley, they're still sane...
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NutMeg1193 Featured By Owner Jul 23, 2014
Thank you for validating my sanity! I'm with you on this, friend.
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Spyke-The-Artist Featured By Owner Jul 23, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
FINALLY SOMEONE SAID IT

THANK YOU
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CrazySOB53 Featured By Owner Jul 23, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
The only people who should worry themselves with this are yourself and your partner. And your parents if you're underaged. XP
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Absolute-Absolem Featured By Owner Jul 23, 2014
You know what grinds my ears ? When people can't mind their own fucking business.
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AVA-1966 Featured By Owner Jul 23, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
That's kind of the main point of this rant. Mind your own business and it won't matter if someone's had sex or not.
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Cobalt-Punk Featured By Owner Jul 23, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
I caved to peer pressure and lost my virginity, and I honestly regret it. Now that I have had sex, I just don't see what's so amazing and mind-blowing about it that everyone just HAS to do it or how disgusting or sinful it is that nobody should do it. It's just...sex.
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meqane Featured By Owner Jul 23, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
I'm only thirteen and a lot of my friends have already lost their virginity. They constantly try to pressure me into it too, but I don't understand why it's such a big deal now.
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Ozokami698 Featured By Owner Jul 24, 2014  Student Traditional Artist
It's not a big deal to have sex, it's just not, plus at a young age, it's best to just wait.
Plus, you have your whole life to do it with someone that loves you/cares about you.3.

Oh, and if someone says that 'you can't get pregnant on your first time', it's a lie. Regardless you can get pregnant if it's your 1st, or 100th time:/ (Unless you have something that prevents you from having a child)

Really it's best to wait when you are older, and ready. Mainly when you turn into a adult, and fully understand everything and what not...
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meqane Featured By Owner Jul 25, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
Yeah, I've been telling them that, but they just don't seem to listen to me :/
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Ozokami698 Featured By Owner Jul 25, 2014  Student Traditional Artist
Well, if they try to bring up that topic, just ignore them:3
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meqane Featured By Owner Jul 25, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
Alright, thank you c:
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Katrise87 Featured By Owner Jul 23, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
Hear hear! Again a case of societal extremes with no middle ground reality.
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bizrat Featured By Owner Jul 23, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
I used to have a friend that kept calling me a slut because I explored my sexuality once in a while. I was still a virgin, I mainly was just testing the waters a little to see what I like.
She acted like she was little miss perfect because she, TO THIS DAY, remains completely untouched. The funny thing is, she only uses virginity and morals as an excuse because she tried REALLY HARD to get a lot of guys to want her and failed every time. 

I felt terrible knowing that this girl who's supposed to be my best friend seriously thought such a terrible thing about me. I couldn't even have so much as a guy friend when she was around. >:/ 
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Kemoh-Wintertail Featured By Owner Jul 23, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Yup. Exactly what I was thinking.
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ThisTeaIsTooSweet Featured By Owner Jul 23, 2014  Student Digital Artist
I completely agree with this. 
I hate it when people go, "oh my god. You're never had sex? Why can't you sleep with anyone." 
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Goth-Freak Featured By Owner Jul 23, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
XDDDD this...this journal is good but also made me laugh REALLY hard! (Not trying to be immature, I'm just saying its funny to post things about your sex life online) best journal yet
I mean so what if you're virgin or not? You shouldn't give a fuck, really. (Sorry, that wasn't meant to be related to this, the word fuck XD) although I am a very layed back person half the time when I'm not stressed so yea.
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AVA-1966 Featured By Owner Jul 23, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
I'll admit I still went out on a limb with this one, haha.

But, yes. I agree.
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Goth-Freak Featured By Owner Jul 23, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
Kk welp its dinner time right now so ttyl
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KalineReine Featured By Owner Jul 23, 2014  Professional Writer
Exactly... :nod: This was a much-needed rant. I agree with you 100%. Like really, who cares anyway? I think everyone should just do whatever they personally feel comfortable with and not try to get others to do things that make them uncomfortable. It's important to remember that we are all on a different path and we are all at different points in our journey. 
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Dysfunctional-H0rr0r Featured By Owner Jul 23, 2014  Student General Artist
Agreed ^^

Although i still hate my generation because of the sex thing, cant even go to the hospital or doctors for a simple cold or head ache without playing 20q with my sex life.
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Sserenita Featured By Owner Jul 23, 2014  Professional General Artist
Trust me, the fewer partners the better! The more people you add to your list, the higher your chances will be of having drama when you get into a serious relationship. The women i know who married guys with a long sexual history are very paranoid because they question every email, every text, every phone call...etc. 
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Co-Swagster Featured By Owner Jul 23, 2014  Student Digital Artist
I totally agree with this. :)

The male sports idiot stereotypes at my school just make me want to :iconfacepalmplz: because sex is not the most important thing...

Being a good person is, and the best way to do that is to not be bitchy about things like whether someone is a virgin or not.
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Crazii-Drawing Featured By Owner Jul 23, 2014
Seriously, you don't need to get screwed to be happy. 
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bearhugbooyah Featured By Owner Jul 23, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Luckily I'm surrounded by kids who don't give a crap about if someone is a virgin or not. But once someone isn't a virgin, they brag about how they aren't one anymore and crap, but no one really cares.
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